Online dating doesnt work
I’ve been in prison for years with some people, then one day I see a photo of them in the free world, or overhear them with their family in the visiting room – and I’d have sworn this was a wholly different person. When all must wear the same prison issued clothes, it’s easy to fake.Most everyone has ‘Photo’ clothes and ‘Visiting’ clothes that look nicer than their other clothes. In here there are many ways to make money, selling artwork and the such, but another one is letter writing.Ask not only about their conviction but about the circumstances that led up to their choice. I personally would suggest meeting someone with a little bit of time left. You can find a jewel anywhere, anywhere at all – but just like when you’re at a garage sale, be careful. Extra time gives you the best opportunity to get to know them and solidify whatever foundation you can. If you imagine the person’s return to society to be easy, or the time with them while they’re in prison to be easy, maybe change your perspective. If you’re locked up and getting more locked up [put in solitary], that is a sign. If they’re in for robbery and going to the hole [solitary] for stealing food from the chow hall, that’s a clue. An inability to be accountable or responsible, combined with poor decision-making, should be further clues. If you don’t mind this, great, but know to inquire ahead of time so you at least have a head’s up on this. In the absence of conjugal visits in most states, how do you know if you’re sexually compatible?
It’s human nature to look for someone special, a soul mate, a better half, a life partner – however you put it.You’ll need these truths as an extra foundation to buffer the challenge that initially awaits a prison relationship.